Divorce is a curse for the most divine relationship between two individuals called marriage. The severity of divorce is not limited to the life of couple, but it develops immoral roots in the lives of children as well. More than that, it contaminates the healthy environment of the society. Thus, a breaking marriage is responsible for impacting the social facet of human race.
In order to find preventive measures for divorce, we need to evaluate most significant reasons, which contribute towards this undesirable practice in the society.
Credit management incapability
This happens to be the biggest culprit for adulterating the essence of a good relation. The inability of one of the spouses in managing the credit often leads to financial instability. The huge bills finding their way in the house may act as fuel for the dispute between two members of the family and often weakens their bond.
Sexual impotency
The incapacity of one of the two spouses in satisfying other’s physical requirements leads to breaking of marriage forever. The sexual problems may arise due to a number of problems like impotency and unworthy sexual performances on bed.
Communication Bridge
For a marriage to be successful there is requirement of great communication between two people. However, in the busy life schedules, the communication fails to construct a bridge between two opposite genders. And the result is often declared in the form of separation and divorce.
Cheating spouse
The extramarital affairs are fast emerging on the scene and serve as strongest cradles for divorce cases to happen. There could be many reasons behind one spouse cheating on other, including money, sexual satisfaction, love or any other prevailing reason in the relationship.
High ambitions
The mismatch of ambitions of two different people often set the flame of divorce between them. If one of the spouses is highly ambitious about his or her career, it may pollute the existing environment in the family. This may lead to problems like deficiency of time, lack of communication and relocation problems, which ultimately find the solution in the form of divorce.
Mismatching abilities
A spouse superior in any of the fields like intelligence, earning capacity, personality or social acceptance may also set the stage for divorce. In such situations, the other spouse feels inferior and fall as victim to the popularity of other. This causes the divorce to happen in the relation.
Undesirable habits
The spouse addicted to bad habits like drugs, alcohol, gambling, spending extra time on work and other similar actions may irritate the other spouse to a level that he or she may opt for divorce. The indulgence in these habits may demand spoilage of family life especially that of children and thus, a person takes the path of divorce to avoid this to happen.
By evaluating these causes of divorce, the solutions are required to be devised in order to save the goodness of most influential institute called marriage.
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I find that my divorce came from a combination of the bad habits, high ambitions, and mismatching abilities. I am educated and very ambitious. I love to travel and experience new things. My ex-husband on the other hand is happy having the mininum as long as he can have his beer and cig’s. Four thirty pack’s per week is more than enough for anyone. He didnt take part in feeding, dressing, bathing, or anything related to the care of his children. He asked me to take part in sexual acts that should not have been a part of any marriage. He was very much into sharing and bargining sex for things the kids and I needed. We could have it but I had to pay for it. I felt like a slut in more than one way.
After 15 years I had enough. While he was away for three months I was happier than i had been in a long time. The kids and I were comfortable and free. We smiled every day. I found myself wondering what other men were out there. I talked to some nice people making friends that I hadnt been able to do with him here. I found myself curious about one man in particular. He was a cop, educated, and father of two girls he took care of by himself. His wife passed with an illness. We talked, took all our kids to do stuff. I felt wrong but wasnt doing anything wrong. I started having feelings for him because he was on the same level. I knew it was over with my ex by that time. I let myself slip and make a mistake one time and then confessed and the marriage was over. I regret how it happened but do not regret that it happened. He still drinks, and smokes. He was ingaged three months after we split and I have just started dating a year later.
If anyone has the same issues in life I would love to hear from them. We all need someone to talk to….
Thank You
Candy